I grew up in profound emotional neglect and abuse. This article is about healing from trauma and being an adult when you are young and being a kid when you are an adult. When your parents cannot parent you, and you are surrounded by chaos, you assume parental duties. That is just how it works. […]
Author: Melissa
Treating addiction and self harming behaviors with love, new routines, and connection
Treating addiction with love. This post is about learning to heal myself. Some of the ways I practice living better. Living with joy. I was chatting with Arvid the other day about addiction and the need to normalize problematic behaviors in order to take away their power and I got to thinking about essential components […]
Are strong women different than strong men?
Are strong women different than strong men? How do women view power differently? Do they wield power differently? I think it is hard to know because we live in a world defined by male power structures and most of the time when women get to wield power in a broad way, they had to earn […]
How do I build theory of mind?
Build theory of mind skills with a few simple practices. I wrote yesterday about theory of mind, the idea that each of us is operating from our own personal mental and emotional map of life. This is a concept most children begin to understand around the age of 4. Some studies suggest kids keep learning […]
What is Theory of Mind?
I will be writing about theory of mind often, I think. It is an important tool for Space Lobsters. Theory of Mind (ToM) is key to self awareness, self acceptance, compassion, empathy, and more. Those of us who are non-conforming need ToM even more than neurotypicals do. From Wikipedia: Theory of mind (ToM) is a […]
Famous people with ASD / Asperger’s (on the Autism Spectrum)
This list of famous people with Aspergers or Autism Spectrum Disorder is something I am compiling as I discover names. Some of these folks are self described, some have been diagnosed, some are speculation. I found some on lists that other folks created and some I found through articles by or about specific people. In […]